It’s been another extremly long day at work and a long drive home. Like any other working individual, I stopped to grab a bite to eat and chill before going home to deal with “home life”. I entered the restaurant and found one person buying food. It was almost 9pm, the restaurant closes at 1030pm, so I definitely didn’t expect it to be busy. The woman in front of me just finished her transaction and grabbed a seat. I sat at the table directly across from her. She began to eat. I began to eat. What do you think we were both doing while eating? We were glued to our phones. Amazing!!! Why? I had this moment where I asked myself, would it be so wrong to sit directly across from a stranger and say hello? How are you today?
Our need to be so connected to the World Wide Web is ridiculous. I am part of that sick and twisted social media drug. So….is it so wrong to dare to socialize with another human being? If I spoke to her or she too me, would either one of us get slightly annoyed by this initiation of converstaion? The sad part is I believe the answer to this question is yes. Are we (Society) so addicted to technology? As I was pondering these thoughts, I found myself consciencly placing my phone face down on the table. Since I had no newspaper I began reading the menu high up to my right above the food counter. I looked over at the woman and she to began reading the meun. Why? Who knows, but clearly she was lost in her own thoughts as was I. This went on for 10mins or so – two people lost in thought, their phones and their food. However, no one spoke. Sometimes the four eyed connection was made, but that was it. I was wondering what she might be thinking? Why was she here alone? Did she work late like me? Did she have a bad day? A good day? How come she was eating alone? Rather than strike up a convo with her to ask her how she was, I sat and said nothing. I look at it now and kick myself for not evening smiling – the basic non verbal cue for hello. What the hell is wrong with me? Am I becoming conditioned and accustomed to burying my face in my phone that I’m forgetting to look up? What’s my point here? Shit…..Look up!!!!
Change has to start somewhere. One day just try to make a random conversation with someone. If you’re shy then try the ‘Pay it Forward” method. What is this you ask? The Pay It Forward method is when someone does a good deed for you, instead of paying them back, pay it forward by doing a good deed for someone else. Try it at a Tim Horton’s drive-thru line. It’s the best way to start. We really need to unplug and use that time wisely to unwind. We need to ‘know thy neighbour’ to ensure everyone is okay.
Similar to this blog title, is technology a blessing or a curse? Maybe it’s both. Whatever it is, it’s controlling us so much that we’re forgetting to be human beings. We’re forgetting other human beings exist around us. We’re forgetting it all and it’s very sad. I’m not guilty of this all the time. What I am sure of is that this is happening to everyone. I’m going to try and be better….will you?
To Be Continued…..