They always say ‘out with the old and in with the new‘. It’s so easy for everyone to sit on their soap boxes and judge. Judge what you think you know; compare it to what you have been through; say you mean well when taking a chance for you didn’t work out…. so…… you auto expect the same fate for me? How does that make any sense? My life isn’t yours. Your life isn’t mine. Mom’s right, better to shut your mouth and just do what you got to do. Sometimes we enter dangerous territory; never really understanding the risks involved or sacrifice it may really take. Every time you take a risk a piece of you chips off. Could be for a good or bad reason… that depends on the situation and people involved. Life is funny. Old habits die hard. Shit’s always happening; always changing. You’re either doing this ride of life alone or not – whatever it is, that shit’s on you. Why? Because you made the choice to do it.
Sometimes I feel lost. Everything else seems to be going great, but personally I feel like I’m searching or just empty. It’s quite strange and a new area for me that I’m still exploring. As I get older, I want what others are obtaining and feeling. I will get there…… I’m working towards it. I have my goals set; my eye is on the prize. I just want it FAST and that my friends will not happen overnight. Nothing does. As I said above, old habits die hard and sometimes we go back to old habits because they are familiar, safe, and comfortable. Sometimes this works for people and sometimes for others, it does nothing. That’s why I say stop judging. It’s funny… I’m usually a pretty positive person and lately I’ve been judging; I’ve been a little mean (old habit resurfacing) – sometimes that’s also because of the company I keep. Not cool.
Yesterday I was watching actress Gabrielle Union speak about self-hate and hating on others on the OWN Network. She said she was in a room with a group of people, absolutely hating on some woman (who was not there) for at least 1 hour. Someone took her aside when she was done and asked her, “did what you just say make you a better person? How do you feel now? Did doing that improve your life? You just empowered this woman you spoke ill of for the past hour without even knowing it. In the process you made people look at you and shake their heads in pity for you.”
This is so true. So very very true. Don’t become like this. Everyone has to go through their own shit…some are in a bad place and some are not. Whatever it is, try not to judge or belittle someone; don’t become that “type” of person. Try to be better. Your life is not theirs and their life is not yours. Advice can be had, but being a bitch or an ass doesn’t make or keep friends people. Remember that!!! If you’re like that, then why would ANYONE want to come to you for anything? Being constructive is one thing, being a jerk is a whole other story. People make choices everyday; what to eat, what to wear; where to go; how to speak. This is an automatic function of our everyday lives. We can’t run from it, but we can train our brains to be better people and improve ourselves – daily. Stop tearing down someone else to make yourself feel better because it just shows you’re an insecure person. Period. That’s all that is. You know it. I know it. We all know it. We’ve all done it. Let’s learn to be better. Stop passing judgement.